The funeral was really sweet. I owe a special thanks to Isaac and our families for putting together such a nice program. I really appreciate all their help, especially because emotionally I wasn't able to handle those preparations. We were able to bury Peter and Jane at a cemetery where both Isaac and I have relatives buried. We had a nice little graveside service where my dad said a few words and Isaac's dad dedicated the grave.
Isaac's mom was even able to make cute little burial clothes for our babies on such short notice. And my aunt gave us a nice crocheted blanket that we could wrap them in. I wasn't able to see Peter and Jane actually wearing the clothes, but it was special to know that they were well taken care of by their family. It was wonderful to have the support of family and friends with us at this difficult time.
After the funeral we planted a memorial peach tree in Isaac's parents backyard. It will be nice to eat those peaches every year and think of my babies.
We also had to pick out a headstone for Peter and Jane's grave. I had a really hard time doing this. I don't think any mother plans on her children passing away, but it is really hard to bury your children. I never expected that I would have to think of what to engrave on their headstone for the rest of time. I have always said that people should just throw me in a pine box and not make a big deal about my funeral. But when it is my sweet babies that need the funeral,
I wanted to make sure everything would be nice and perfect. I still miss my little babies each day. I have never been an emotional person before, but now the smallest things remind me of them and I start to cry. Not being with my babies in this life is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Right now it feels like I will never get over it. But I am so grateful that I know I will be with them again someday. I know they are being well taken care of until I can hold them in my arms again.
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Marcy - I just keep thinking of you lately. I am so glad you got to go to Utah and have your little family be surrounded by your big families and just feel the support from them. I don't know how I could make it otherwise. You and Isaac have been thru so much. Take care of yourself. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
It was a very nice service... I hope you are doing okay.
Marcy,
I have also been thinking about you a lot lately. I am so glad that you got to bring your babies back to Utah to be buried and have been able to spend time with family. How difficult this time must be for you and Isaac. Please know that we are praying for you and that I know that Heavenly Father loves you and is mindful of you. You will be with your sweet children again and you will be able to raise them after the Savior comes again. Our thoughts and prayers are with you!
Marcy- I am Rachelle Redford Sherwood's sister-in-law (our husband's are brothers). She sent me your story and I have spent all morning thinking of you. I, too, have lost two babies. Very different circumstances than yours (one died at 3 months old, one at 15 months old), but I know how you are feeling. If you ever need anyone to talk to who truly understands, feel free to contact me. If you want nothing to do with me, don't worry! I don't get offended easily (and you don't have to read the rest of this comment that quickly became a novel...sorry!
A few thoughts from someone who has been there (if these aren't relevant to you, feel free to not read them).
Heavenly Father IS aware of you and your little family. Sometimes it is really hard to remember that, but try not to forget it. Your babies are together in a much better place. They were perfect and just needed to get bodies so they could return home perfect. You are a very special person to have been given such special children. Some days, I am still angry over the loss of my children, but I just have to remind myself that they were too good for this world. We WILL see our kids again someday.
Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve. Everyone grieves in their own way. Don't let anyone say that you should 'be over it' or that you should be 'ready to move on because you are an eternal family'. You have to take the time to grieve. There will be days the rest of your life where it all of the sudden, it hits you again (well, at least for the first 3 years... I'll let you know as I get farther down the road as well). I think of my kids every day. I miss them every day. That is okay and will always be okay.
You CAN do this. You CAN endure this trial and come out a better person. Just keep praying and putting one foot in front of the other. Rely on your wonderful husband. Rely on your family and friends. Rely on Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. There are a lot of prayers coming your way. They will(and I'm sure have) buoy you up. I don't even know you and feel such love for you. You are an amazing person. You are an amazing mother. Your children sing your praises because you did the one thing for them that they could not do for themselves. You gave them a body. They can't wait for the reunion either.
My deepest condolences to you and Isaac. I will be praying for your peace and comfort.
Sincerely,
Amanda Sherwood
amandajsherwood@yahoo.com
609-613-7322
Marci and Isaac,
Tori and I wanted to let you know that we are praying for you and your family. We love you guys.
~Kevin
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